Just for the record, this isn't meant to piss anyone off, and Ms. Huis's post was not the only factor in my irkedness (though being fair, it was part, but not in a personal kind of way, more of a general jealous way. And it wasn't the only one that triggered it all). For my own mental health, I think I need to write this one out.
I get two hours a work day with my daughter. That is two hours that has to include feeding, cooking, sometimes work, getting ready for work, as well as trying to mentally stimulate and teach. Seeing as she's not talking, not walking (yes I realize that it is normal, but I still compare) I can't help but think that maybe she would be doing some of the kinds of things other kids her age are doing if I could stay home with her. Then there is the issue of the multiple ear infections (which no doubt being in a large daycare contributed to) and the resulting hearing loss and speech delay. Given the choice, I would put up with any of the annoyances that I see so many women complaining about. Really, in this world, you need too incomes, and being able to stay home is more of a luxury than many can afford. I know it can be done, and with it comes sacrifices, but for those of us who work full time, its definitely a grass is greener issue.
It doesn't help that I find my daycare passable, not extraordinary. And what parent doesn't want extraordinary for their child. It doesn't help that I'm exhausted from 13 months of lack of sleep, or that I still do the majority of the house work.
If I get irked, and redo my blog, its not because its personal. I'm jealous, and I worry. I was an extraordinary kid, and I worry that my working is going to mean that my daughter is average. And again, who doesn't want extraordinary for their kid. I'm worry that I'll FUBAR her, or that making sure she's good will take a toll on me and mess up other stuff in the long term.
Sorry, I had to write it out, put it out there. Its a big part of who I am right now. At least once I week I try to figure out how to quit my job or have a panic about what we're screwing up.